Today’s post is about those men that chase other girls claiming to be single instead of admitting they’re married. Awon oloriburuku, they are a menace to society I tell you.
You know how you hear about victims of these men and blame them saying, “why didn’t she see the signs?” You rarely go out on dates and when you do, it’s almost always in private spaces. You can’t post him because he says he doesn’t want you to jinx it. He only has chance to call you at lunchtime or at midnight (these particular ones, God will punish them). Imagine their wives sleeping beside them and they have the nerve to make a phone call to another woman, these ones are so heartless and they think they’re slick, well, one was caught by my friend after she’d invested emotionally into the relationship. I would have liked that she exposed him but she didn’t. You see, my friend is a very nice girl, got a good heart and all that stuff, that’s why it pains me that one of these riff raffs got hold of her. For the good of my friend, let’s name her Betty.
So Betty met this man, she describes him as really mature (that’s already a ding ding in my head but let’s move on), well spoken and not just your average naija hustling man. He works in a bank and that was where they met. They exchanged numbers and started talking on phone (especially at midnight), chatting on WhatsApp and she said he didn’t reason like the kind of guys we avoid (those shallow types that have nothing upstairs to offer). I’m sapiosexual so I understood where she was coming from.
This went on for months (In a way, I blame Coronavirus, causing boredom and heartache everywhere). In those months they went out when they could, so he wasn’t bothered about being seen with her publicly and he still didn’t tell her he was married. By this time, babygirl had already caught feelings. She really liked him.
The ball dropped one day she went to the bank to visit him, she’d prepared a meal and was taking it to him. At this point, I have to add that Mr man was not aware of this visit so he had his ring on and the moment she got close to his station she saw the ring. Mr man noticed too late that Betty was at the bank, right in front of his desk and that he had been caught. Now this is what my friend did that annoyed the hell outta me, she left the food on the desk and walked out.
Why???? Why leave the food behind? The idiot didn’t deserve even that extra effort from her, after spending time slaving in the kitchen only to leave it for the married fool! 😡
But I digress. By now, you can tell my mood at this point. Moving on!
She blocked him immediately she left the bank and the fool did not even chase after her to apologise for deceiving her, to plead for mercy, anything! He just stayed back at his station while she walked out.
Why do people do this? Atleast give them the option of choosing for themselves if they want to cheat with you or not, instead of dragging them along on a train headed for the ocean.
She’s hurting, she couldn’t talk about it at first but later she opened up and told us every detail. I’m sure she’s also considering the fact that she’ll not be able to avoid him since he works in her bank. But if he has an iota of conscience he’ll steer clear from her.
If you are going through something similar, first, have it at the back of your mind that I am praying for thunder to strike them down without mercy, and second, you need to tell a close friend or even a stranger (hopefully, you won’t encounter each other again), just get it off your chest. You’re not a fool, the oloriburukus are the fools, thinking they’re so smart, eating their cake and having it.
It’s all love here, share your experience and if you have any advise for my friend, just write it in the comment section or send me an email.
That’s it for today, till next time, be brazen!💋
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